Women Like Dating Playboys

A new research by a psychologist from University of Texas at Austin has shown that men are more than twice as likely to continue dating a girlfriend who has cheated on them with another woman than one who has cheated with another man.

Women show the opposite pattern. They are more likely to continue dating a man who has had a heterosexual affair than one who has had a homosexual affair.

The study provides new insight into the psychological adaptations behind men's desire for a variety of partners and women's desire for a committed partner. These drives have played a key role in the evolution of human mating psychology.

"A robust jealousy mechanism is activated in men and women by different types of cues — those that threaten paternity in men and those that threaten abandonment in women," said Jaime C. Confer, the study's lead author and a doctoral candidate in evolutionary psychology.

The researchers asked 700 college students to imagine they were in a committed romantic and sexual relationship with someone they've been dating for three months. They were then asked how they would respond to infidelity committed by the imagined partner.

Some participants were told their partners had been unfaithful with a man, others with a woman. Some were told their partners had an affair with one person, others with multiple partners. Some were told the infidelity happened once, others twice.

Regardless of the number of episodes or partners, the study found that:

Overall, men demonstrated a 50 per cent likelihood of continuing to date a partner who has had a homosexual affair and a 22 per cent likelihood of staying with a woman after a heterosexual affair.

Women demonstrated a 28 per cent likelihood of continuing to date a boyfriend who has had a heterosexual affair and a 21 per cent likelihood of staying with someone who has had a homosexual affair.

The findings suggest men are more distressed by the type of infidelity that could threaten their paternity of offspring. Men may also view a partner's homosexual affair as an opportunity to mate with more than one woman simultaneously, satisfying men's greater desire for more partners, the authors say.

The study has been published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences.

Morning Sex Improves Mood & Health

Want to kick start your day feeling healthy and positive? Look no further than the bedroom, suggests a new study

According to the research, adults who make love first thing in the morning apparently not only feel more upbeat for the rest of the day, but also benefit from a stronger immune system.

The study suggests that adults who begin their day this way are healthier and happier than those who simply opt for a cup of tea and some toast before heading out of the door.

Not only does it make them less likely to catch a cold or flu, it can also improve the quality of their hair, skin, and nails.

"Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day long," the Daily Mail quoted Dr Debby Herbenick, an American research scientist and sex advice columnist, as saying.

Dr Herbenick, author of the book Because It Feels Good, added: "It makes you stronger and more beautiful too: Morning sex can strengthen your immune system for the day by enhancing your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection.

"And it releases chemicals that boost levels of oestrogen, which improves the tone and texture of your skin and hair."

Other studies suggest that the benefits do not end there. A study at Queens University in Belfast found that having sex three times a week could halve the risk of heart attack or stroke.

Research from Nottingham University also revealed that men who kept up a regular sex life in their 50s were also at lower risk of developing prostate cancer.

Obesity During Pregnancy Complicates Delivery

A new study at Liverpool University has found that overweight pregnant women are more likely to be overdue and have more complicated births.

Women who were overweight or obese before they conceived were more likely to have a longer pregnancy, need to have labor induced artificially and to go on to require caesarean section births.

For the study, the research team examined the records of almost 30,000 women who gave birth over four years.

Three in ten obese women were overdue, defined as still pregnant ten days after their due date, compared with around two in ten of healthy weight women.

The study found more than a third of obese women had their labor induced, compared with just over a quarter of normal weight women.

In addition almost three in ten obese women had an induction of labor, which later resulted in a caesarean delivery compared to less than two in ten normal weight women.

"Maternal obesity has become one of the most commonly occurring risk factors in obstetric practice including greater risk of prolonged pregnancy," the Telegraph quoted Dr Sarah Arrowsmith, from the University of Liverpool's Institute of Translational Medicine, and lead author on the paper as saying.

The study has been published in the British Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology.

Pennies Reading Waitress

One day a bachelor, who was a poor tipper, walked into his favorite restaurant and ordered lunch.

A new waitress served his meal and received a three cent tip. When he came in the next day, she thanked him for his 'generosity' and she said she could tell the character of a diner by the way he tipped.

"Yeah? What can you tell about me?" he asked.

"You put three pennies in a neat row," said the waitress, "and that shows you are a very tidy person. The first penny tells me you are frugal and the second tells me that you are a bachelor."

"That's true," he agreed. "But what does the third penny tell you?"

"The third penny tells me your father was a bachelor too"

What Women Think While Having Sex

A Hollywood hunk, ex-lovers, a blue film scene and even what to buy in a grocery store—these are things that women think of while having sex.

Some women have now revealed what really scores with them between the sheets.

Single comedian Shazia Mirza, 34, said that some of her friends revealed that during sex they are mentally writing a to-do list, remembering clothes they have to wash, what they've got to buy at Tesco's or those shoes they love in Self ridges.

And some women even think of men they secretly fantasize of.

"A friend of mine, who really loves her husband, told me that during sex she can't help thinking about all the men she secretly really desires, like Jeremy Beadle and Jeremy Paxman," the Sun quoted her as saying.

"I've been married twice and had many lovers and to be honest, with past lovers I've been so bored in bed, I've taken to compiling mental grocery lists and calculating exactly how many shoes are in the wardrobe (82 pairs)," said author Kathy Lette, 51.

"Most wives are taken for granted. But how we'd like to be taken is by a muscular-thighs Adonis with pecs appeal.

"Luckily sex with Johnny Depp is only the flick of a light switch away. Ah, Johnny - a man whose sex appeal is so deadly it should be registered at police headquarters as a lethal weapon.

"Doing the horizontal tango with George Clooney is also amazing - if only he'd been with me at the time!" she added.

Sarah Millican, 33, is in a relationship, and she said: "I never walk out of a film at the cinema. I'm the same with sex. I always think it might get better. To be honest, as long as I've got a bag of Maltesers, I'm not going anywhere."

Top Sign of Sexiness

Keeping your hands well-tended is not about metrosexuality, but something that goes beyond the modern day conventions of beauty and wellness. When women can go that extra mile to keep their bodies beautiful, clean, and soft to the touch, is it too much for men to offer them at least well-groomed hands.

A man with neat, moisturized hands is a huge turn-on for a woman, making her want to hold it or even kiss it. It not only boosts the pleasure of lovemaking, but is also the most hygienic way out, for there are parts of a woman’s body that are sensitive to grubby fingers or uncut nails. Even if you are prone to dirtying your hands, ensure they are properly washed, and the nails filed before you meet your lady. Remember, hands are as important a part of your body as any. And by keeping them clean, soft and well-tended, you are only gaining her appreciation. So, take care of your hands, and follow a few quick steps to keep them in top-of-the-world condition.

Wash and cleanse them
To forget washing your hands after a meal is common. Even though you have used a tissue paper, food particles remain stuck around the corner of your nails. So, always remember to use soap and rinse your hands thoroughly. Use a gel or cream cleanser on them everyday before retiring to bed or after a bath. Here you can even adapt a homegrown technique. Use the juice of citrus fruits such as orange or lemon onto your hands, and massage well before rinsing it off with soap. Always towel-dry your hands – they stay soft that way!

Chip off calloused skin and moisturize
Exfoliation is most important for your skin, particularly in maintaining soft, kissable hands. This can be done by soaking your hands for a few minutes in lukewarm water. You can even add drops of hand-wash gel to the water and stir it, before dipping your hands in it. After five minutes, you will be able to peel off the dead skin with a damp sponge. Another way of doing it is to squish orange or cucumber pulp and dab it on your palms, and do a thorough massage. Rinse your hands, and follow it up by rubbing a small quantity of moisturizer into them. Gradually, you can cultivate a habit of using moisturizer every time you wash your hands.

Trim your nails regularly
Men, as a rule of thumb, should always keep their nails clipped. Claw-like nails are capable of bruising your girl in sensitive places, which in no way will be overlooked by her! It is not only an embarrassing situation, but also a matter of how hygiene conscious you are. After trimming, round off the edges with a filer. Don’t forget, women observe!

Use nail hardener – there is nothing dandy about it!
You can even use a nail hardener; it is a kind of varnish for your nails. Hardener helps keep your nails clean and healthy. It is in fact an apt finish to a well-groomed hand. And be sure she will notice your hands with a sense of admiration.

Go for calcium tablets
Brittle nails are indicative of calcium deficiency. There is a range of calcium tablets and supplements on the market that makes nails strong and healthy. Nails too need nutrition, and this can be provided by taking multivitamins with a big dose of calcium. You can even consider a breakfast of green salad with a glass of toned milk. Not to mention, an adequate intake of water during the day.

Care for your hands, and this time, let them do the talking!

Sleeping With Your Pooch Bad For Health

Sleeping with pets could result in health hazards from staph infections to meningitis, according to a new study.

Bruno Chomel and Ben Sun, the authors of the new study, said the diseases could even include the plague, reports the New York Daily News.

The researchers found more than half of all dog owners consider their pooches to be members of their family.

And more than half slept in the same beds with their dogs. And not to be outdone, cats are just as dangerous to owners' health as dogs.

The findings will be published in the journal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in February.

After Sex Conversations

Most couples know what to say to their partners so as to persuade them for a sex romp.

But what couples often fail to realize is the importance of after sex conversations that can bind them together even after the act is over. It's important for couples to relax after an exhaustive performance and nothing can be better than to converse with each other.

Dr. Amit Aggarwal, a Mumbai-based sexologist elucidates, "After sex, couples can lay down in front of each other and indulge in some canoodling. As for conversational topics, they can discuss how good they felt during sex, their most intimate feelings, their sexual desires and their displeasure towards certain gestures by their partners. Basically, the focus of the discussion should be on the things they love most about each other."

Conversing about one's bedroom performance, sexual desires, sharing feedback or expressing love, here's a lowdown on the topics that make great after sex discussions.

Discussing bedroom performance : It's indeed a wise move to tell your partner about what you liked and disliked about a particular sexual session. Exchanging feedback about your sexual performance will not only make you feel at ease, but will also help you work on the weaker areas where you may be lacking.

Expert tip : Dr. Devesh Roy, a sex expert suggests, "It's a healthy practice to discuss your performance once you're done with the act, but do not over analyze the sexual act too much. Also, if you felt your partner lacked somewhere, device a way out to tell them patiently, but never compare their performance with anyone Else's or else it will do more harm than good to your relationship."

Planning another sex quickie : As the sexual mood continues to be in full swing, nothing can be better than planning out another intimate session. Talking about yet another round of a sex will not only ignite your passion, but will also bring you closer.

Expert tip : Dr. Aggarwal advices, "It's a great idea to plan another round of sex and if you talk about it openly, it can guarantee you ultimate gratification. During such conversations, make it a point to highlight the things that you liked the most in the previous session. And also mention about the acts you didn't enjoy, so that your partner knows what to avoid in the next round. Take advantage of this planning by looking out for innovative ways of intimacy that you can experiment with in round two."

Expressing sexual fantasies : After a steamy romp, almost all your sexual desires would have been fulfilled by your partner. So go ahead and utilize those intimate moments to express more about your sex fantasies. It's very likely that your partner, who is still sailing in that sexual mood, would listen to your fancies attentively.

Expert tip : Dr. Chitra Bakshi, a relationship counselor says, "It's really not an easy task to talk overtly about your sexual fantasies, not even with your partner. So couples often look out for chances, be it during the for*play period or during sex. But the most appropriate time would be after sex, as your partner is likely to be in a sexually charged up state of mind to listen to you patiently. You can express those fancies that you would like them to try out, the next time you get intimate."

Appreciating each others body : Remember that your partner loves being appreciated, not only for their sexual moves, but for their physical appearance and body as well. The most cherished after-sex moments are an apt opportunity to compliment your mate's body. Telling your mate about the heavenly feeling you get while touching their body and also passing naughty remarks on their curves will surely pamper them.

Expert tip : Dr. Roy opines, "Since sex is all about physical touch, try and utilize these after-sex minutes to say good things about each others body. This would create a better comfort zone, bring about a feeling of reassurance to your mate that you like their body and it will make the art of undressing an easier task, as your partner will be more confident about their physical self."

Exchanging expressions of love : You'd have said 'I love you' to your lover many a times but saying these words right after a sex quickie holds a special place. Verbal or physical gestures like hugging and cuddling, any expression of love can act as a catalyst if expressed at the right time. Once you're done with a sexual session, whispering some sweet nothings into your partner's ears can make them feel extra special.

Expert tip : Dr. Chitra confirms, "Exchanging expressions of love is a sure shot way to enjoy passionate moments with your partner. After enjoying sex, most partners fall asleep without even realizing once that their mate might be longing for some loving gestures. So make the most of these special moments and indulge in a quick conversation and tell each other how much you love and care about them."

How Saving Password on Browser is Risky

FRANKFURT: Never store unencrypted passwords on a computer's browser. Doing so makes it too easy for hackers to access the data with tools like Trojans and then access private accounts, warns German computer magazine c't.

The magazine recommends that people who insist on storing passwords on a browser at least use some kind of master password, which means that all stored access data is safely encrypted. However, that option is only available with Firefox and Opera.

To access this function in Mozilla's Firefox, users must go to Extras/Settings/Security and then click the option to "use a master password." Opera automatically asks the first time a password is stored if users wouldn't rather set up a master password.

Many computer users do not adequately protect their accounts. The most popular passwords include "123456" or "Password" -- both of which are incredibly easy for cyber criminals to figure out. Worse, one password often tends to provide access to multiple accounts.

C't advises using passwords with at least eight characters and to make each password unique to a particular website.

What Women Want From Men

Here's what women want from men

1. When we talk 'listen', it shows us that you care about our feelings.

2. Men should be smart enough and understand that not all our bad moods are connected to PMS-ing.

3. Guys, developing an EQ (Emotional quotient) would help. That however, does not mean that they need to cry at the drop of a hat, it just means you need to be more sensitive towards us.

4. With women communication is the key, so try and talk to us often.

5. Here are some traits we wish men would display – chivalry, making an extra effort with our friends and family, because we do the same!

6. Cook for us once in a while – this one may sound like a cliche, but we love surprises so an occasional effort wouldn't hurt, would it?

7. Your machoism is not directly proportional to the speed at which you drive your car. Rash driving is so uncool.

8. Be protective, not possessive, hear that?

9. We need our man to proclaim love all the time and we leave it to you as to how you wish to show it.

10. Remember the quickest way to lose a woman is to lie to her; so be honest.

Physical Activity Can Cure Osteoarthritis

People with knee osteoarthritis are more likely to walk fast enough if they lead physically active lives, a new Northwestern Medicine research has shown.

"The more active people are, the faster they can walk," said Dorothy Dunlop, associate professor of medicine at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine and lead author of the study.

"This is strong evidence that even a small increase in activity is related to better walking function. The bar for improvement isn't that high. This should motivate people to get moving, even if they have pain or stiffness."

Federal guidelines recommend adults with arthritis should participate in at least 2.5 hours a week of moderate intensity, low-impact activity in sessions lasting 10 minutes or more. Even if people can't meet these levels, Dunlop said they should be as physically active as possible.

The Osteoarthritis Initiative, an observational study, surveyed 2,500 participants with knee osteoarthritis. Participants filled out self-reported questionnaires about their physical activity at sites in Columbus, Ohio, Baltimore, Md., Providence, R.I., and Pittsburgh, Pa.

Researchers divided participants into four physical activity groups, from lowest to highest, using a general activity score. In the lowest physical activity group, less than half, or 49 per cent, walked fast enough to cross the street before the light changed. (Traffic lights generally allow a walking speed of four feet per second.) In the next three higher physical activity groups, 63 per cent, 71 per cent and 81 per cent, respectively, walked fast enough to cross the street.

The study has been published in the Arthritis and Rheumatism .

5 Steps Toward A Strong and Healthy Relationship

If you think your romantic relationship is on the rocks, don't worry, for an expert has offered tips to keep it alive and happy.

"Keeping the love in a relationship is about understanding who the other partner is and working extremely hard to keep the lines of communication open," said Josh Klapow, of the University of Alabama at Birmingham.

Klapow said a relationship is doomed if the communication is not there. "Very often it's the little things, the daily hassles and decisions that couples need to make that lead to bigger problems; learning to make decisions together is critical for the survival of your relationship," he said.

Here are the five things Klapow recommends for making decisions together:

Set a specific goal

"What do each of you want? Make sure you are very specific. Eating dinner out is not a specific goal. Going to a restaurant where you can get a steak, your partner can get grilled shrimp and you both can relax in a quiet booth is specific. The more specific you are the better."

Monitor your discussion

"As you are discussing the decision at hand, make sure you are staying on track. Often couples will start discussing a goal and stray to some other topic, which can lead to frustration. So, if you notice yourself or your spouse getting off the subject, come back to the specific goal."

Arrange the situation for success

"Decision making doesn't work well when someone is tired, hungry, short for time or pre-occupied with other activities. Before you start the discussion, make sure each of you is in the right frame of mind and you have the time. If not, table the discussion as it is likely to go awry or fail."

Recruit support from one another

"A collective decision means that sometimes there will be compromise. If you are going into the discussion to win, then you are not making a collective decision; you are fighting a battle. Remind each other that you are a team and that you are in it to win collectively, not necessarily individually."

Treat yourselves

"Celebrate the success of a decision together. A hug, a celebratory reward, anything that acknowledges that together you have accomplished this task will help keep you motivated to make decisions together again." (ANI)

Four Places Men Love To Be Touched

Men love to be touched and there are some places they love to be touched but even they don't know it!

Guys, learn about your e-spots and girls, prove you really know your way around his body by focusing on some of his most ignored nerve endings.

Touch His Jawline

When you stroke a man's jaw, you're subconsciously reinforcing to him that he's masculine, which is an ego boost.

It's one of the most visible symbols of your guy's manhood, yet it rarely gets attention.

Gently trace the tips of your fingers across his jaw, starting at his earlobe and working your way down.

Lightly stroking this area stimulates sensitive nerves in his face and cup your hands around his chin and staring into his eyes for a few seconds, before leaning in for a hot and sticky kiss.

Touch His Forearm

The top of your guy's forearm is extra sensitive because of the nerve-packed hair follicles. And the smooth underside of his arm is jammed with tense muscles just begging for a release.

You can have him eating out of your hands if you face your man and lightly place your hands around each forearm with your thumbs on top, using your fingers to lightly rub up and down the top and bottom of his arms Keep rubbing until you see him visibly relax... then rub some more.

He's gonna be moaning for more!

Touch His Inner Thigh

Your man may be a bit shocked, but still really turned on when you take a voyage down his inner thigh because not many women actually explore this part of a man's body!

Gently grab his legs and spread them to expose his inner thighs. Massage his muscles with light finger strokes, upgrading to a firmer touch and we leave the rest to you...

Four Places Men Love To Be Touched

The really low back, just about his butt, is truly receptive to a soothing massage, Massaging the tut muscles there allows you to get rid of a tension-induced stiffness so he can move his hips more freely later on.

Place the heels of your hands on both sides of his spine, and stroke outward toward his sides. Move your hands down an inch and repeat until you're halfway down his butt, then move slowly back up.

Music Gives The Same High as Sex

A new study from the McGill University has revealed that listening to music is just as pleasurable as food, drugs and sex.

Listening to music releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter in the brain important for more tangible pleasures associated with sex or great food.

The study found that dopamine release in response to music elicited "chills", changes in skin conductance, heart rate, breathing, and temperature.

Combining PET and fMRI brain scans showed that dopamine release is greater for pleasurable versus neutral music, and that levels of release are correlated with the extent of emotional arousal and pleasurability ratings.

"These findings provide neurochemical evidence that intense emotional responses to music involve ancient reward circuitry in the brain," said Dr. Robert Zatorre, neuroscientist at The Neuro.

"Music is unique in the sense that we can measure all reward phases in real-time, as it progresses from baseline neutral to anticipation to peak pleasure all during scanning," said lead investigator Valorie Salimpoor, a graduate student in the Zatorre lab at The Neuro and McGill psychology program.

"It is generally a great challenge to examine dopamine activity during both the anticipation and the consumption phase of a reward. Both phases are captured together online by the PET scanner, which, combined with the temporal specificity of fMRI provides us with a unique assessment of the distinct contributions of each brain region at different time points."

The study appears in the journal Nature Neuroscience.

Common Phrases to Avoid in Conversation

What Not to Say About Someone's Appearance


Don't say: "You look tired."
Why: It implies she doesn't look good.
Instead say: "Is everything OK?" We often blurt the "tired" comment when we get the sense that the other person feels out of sorts. So just ask.

Don't say: "Wow, you've lost a ton of weight!"
Why: To a newly trim person, it might give the impression that she used to look unattractive.
Instead say: "You look fantastic." And leave it at that. If you're curious about how she got so svelte, add, "What's your secret?"

Don't say: "You look good for your age."
Why: Anything with a caveat like this is rude. It's saying, "You look great?compared with other old people. It's amazing you have all your own teeth."
Instead say: "You look great."

Don't say: "I could never wear that."
Why: It can be misunderstood as a criticism. ("I could never wear that because it's so ugly.")
Instead say: "You look so good in skinny jeans." If you slip, say something like "I could never wear that...because I wasn't blessed with your long legs."

What Not to Say in the Workplace


Don't say: "That's not my job."
Why: If your superior asks you to do something, it is your job.
Instead say: "I'm not sure that should be my priority right now." Then have a conversation with your boss about your responsibilities.

Don't say: "This might sound stupid, but..."
Why: Never undermine your ideas by prefacing your remarks with wishy-washy language.
Instead say: What's on your mind. It reinforces your credibility to present your ideas with confidence.

Don't say: "I don't have time to talk to you."
Why: It's plain rude, in person or on the phone.
Instead say: "I'm just finishing something up right now. Can I come by when I'm done?" Graciously explain why you can't talk now, and suggest catching up at an appointed time later. Let phone calls go to voice mail until you can give callers your undivided attention.

What Not to Say During a Job Interview


Don't say: "My current boss is horrendous."
Why: It's unprofessional. Your interviewer might wonder when you'd start bad-mouthing her. For all you know, she and your current boss are old pals.
Instead say: "I'm ready for a new challenge" or a similarly positive remark.

Don't say: "Do you think I'd fit in here?"
Why: You're the interviewee, not the interviewer.
Instead say: "What do you enjoy about working here?" By all means ask questions, but prepare ones that demonstrate your genuine interest in the company.

Don't say: "What are the hours like?" or "What's the vacation policy?"
Why: You want to be seen as someone who focuses on getting the job done.
Instead say: "What's the day-to-day like here?" Then, if you've really jumped through every hoop and time off still hasn't been mentioned, say, "Can you tell me about the compensation and benefits package?"

What Not to Say About Pregnancy and Babies


Don't say: "Are you pregnant?"
Why: You ask, she's not, and you feel totally embarrassed for essentially pointing out that she's overweight.
Instead say: "Hello" or "Great to see you" or "You look great." Anything besides "Are you pregnant?" or "What's the due date?" will do. Save yourself the
humiliation and never ask.

Don't say: "Do you plan on breast-feeding?"
Why: The issue can be controversial, and she may not want to discuss her decision publicly.
Instead say: Nothing. Unless you're very close, don't ask. If you slip, make up for the blunder by adding, "And do you feel comfortable telling me?"

Don't say: "Were your twins natural?" or "It must have been hard for your child's birth parent to give him up."
Why: You're suggesting that natural conception is better than in vitro fertilization (IVF) or adoption.
Instead say: To a parent of multiples, try a light "Wow, you have your hands full!" To an adoptive parent, say the same stuff you would to any other parent: "She's adorable!" or "How old is he?"

What Not to Say to a Single (or Newly Single) Person


Don't say: "You were too good for him."
Why: You are basically saying she has bad taste. And you'll be embarrassed if they ever patch it up.
Instead say: "His loss!" It gets the same point across without disparaging her judgment.

Don't say: "I'm glad you got rid of him. I never liked him anyway."
Why: She'll wonder about your fake adoration for him while they were together.
Instead say: "I'm confident you'll find someone who will give you exactly what you want." It focuses on what's to come, not on the dud you're glad she's done with.

Don't say: "How could someone as perfect as you still be single?"
Why: A statement like this comes off as a backhanded compliment. What she hears is "What's wrong with you?"
Instead say: "Seeing anyone?" If she's tight-lipped about her love life, move on to other topics.

What Not to Say During a Fight with Your Beloved


Don't say: "You always" or "You never" or "You're a [slob, jerk]" or "You're wrong."
Why: Speaking in absolutes like "you always" and "you're wrong" is playing the blame game, and resorting to name calling makes your partner feel helpless, which puts him on the defensive and makes a bad fight worse.
Instead say: "I'm upset that you left the dishes in the sink again. What can we do so that this stops happening?" Starting with the pronoun I puts the focus on how you feel, not why he's in the doghouse, and it will make him more receptive to fixing the problem.

Don't say: "If you really loved me, you would..."
Why: The more you treat your partner as if he'll never satisfy you, the less satisfied you'll be. Controlling your partner by imploring him to do something
isn't a good way to build intimacy.
Instead say: "I feel taken for granted when you don't help around the house. I would feel better if we could..." The best way to keep a productive fight from becoming a dirty one is to be clear about why you're upset and then offer a solution.

Things Women Can Do That Guys Cannot

There are many things women can do that men just can't and the worst thing is, they just can't acknowledge that we are definitely the superior pole  But, here are few things that are socially acceptable for heterosexual women to do, but not heterosexual men. Both men and women CAN do most of these things, but the social implications are what often stop men from doing the things on this list. Thanks to Ranker we got this interesting list.

Women Can Openly Own Toys For Pleasure

How many guys do you know that proudly own some toy? For various reasons, some biological and some psychological, women sometimes have more difficulty pleasuring themselves than men do, whereas most men are content with using their hands.

Although women don't usually flaunt their toys in public, and would be at least a little embarrassed when the said toys make a sudden appearance at an unprepared party, most social circles – and potential romantic partners – are pretty forgiving towards women who own toys for their own personal enjoyment.

Seems like a double-standard, doesn't it? Yes. It does. And it is one of the worst ones on this list. Because we are lonely.

Women Can Wear Men's Clothes To Work

First of all, men have something down  If ANYTHING, they need more space in the bottom half of their wardrobe than women. IT'S BASIC MATH

Given the horrific impracticalities of women's fashion it's easy to understand why women have fought for their rights to wear pants. Maybe they had some hurdles, like the preconception that a woman who wore men's clothes was a lesbian, but over time it's become perfectly acceptable for a woman to wear pants, t-shirts, and even practical shoes.

If a man wants to wear clothing specifically designed for a woman he'll have to also wear the label of "transvestite". Of course, while much of the Western World is increasingly comfortable with the idea of transvestism, actually wearing high heels and a corset in public will nevertheless turn heads, and not in a positive way. It's not that every man actually WANTS to wear women's clothing, but there's no denying it-being ABLE to do so could be liberating. I mean, have you ever worn a dress? Then you know how it compares to a pair of pants on a hot summer day, and I'm not the first to say, that THAT'S freedom.

Women Can Openly Experiment With Homosexuality

Of course, many subcultures in the Western World are still hostile to homosexuality in all of its forms, but over the last few decades in particular, society as a whole has become more accepting of the homosexual way of life. Regardless of whether homosexuality is a choice or an innate facet of one's being, Kinsey was already telling us over 50 years ago that homosexual experimentation is a fairly normal part of the human experience. While there will always be detractors, naysayers and outright intolerant bastards, as a rule a certain degree of homosexual experimentation amongst females is considered socially acceptable, even "completely awesome", whereas amongst males it is pretty much not.

Many straight women are comfortable admitting to having gone through a "phase", or at least kissing another woman in a social setting, from intoxicated college reverie to innocent games of Spin The Bottle in their youth. If a woman admits to these things she can still be considered heterosexual by pretty much everyone in the room.

On other side, a man cannot amongst most social circles admit to homosexual experimentation – no matter how fleeting, or even if they decided they did not enjoy the experience – without fear of being permanently labeled "gay" by those around them.

Women Can Dance Together

Dancing is a wonderful and highly personal form of self-expression. It feels good, it's great exercise and is even considered ultra-masculine in some non-western cultures. Practically everyone dances at some point in their lives, at least when nobody is watching, but dancing in public is something that men are often uncomfortable with, even with a female partner.

If women think men are being ridiculous for not enjoying themselves in a group setting with members of the opposite pole, that's nothing compared to the discomfort most men feel with dancing around other men. Dancing with other men is not a socially acceptable practice, although nobody bats an eye when women dance together (at least, not disapprovingly). As with many of the items on this list, homophobia is often a factor in this case. But more than that, fear of dancing in general is an expression of social inadequacy and discomfort with one's body and social standing.

Being ignored by those around you is one thing, but being laughed at is another issue altogether. Add to the mix close proximity to other men in an uninhibited display of self-expression, and you've got a powder keg of social anxiety that most men just aren't comfortable with, even if they are being a little ridiculous about it.

Women Can Call Each Other Attractive

Although women can be competitive amongst their own gender, they are also allowed to be mutually supportive in ways that straight men usually cannot publicly. This is due mostly to, again, the insane amount of homophobia present in our Western culture today. Women are allowed to compliment each others looks free from social awkwardness, often to explicit degrees.

Heterosexual men, however, are not generally "allowed" to say that other men look "sexy" in any context. In fact, any compliment regarding a degree of physical attractiveness must usually be qualified out of social insecurity. "I can see why women go for him", for example, is reasonably acceptable. "Nice haircut" is vague enough to generally be fine. Something like, "Dude, sweet abs" might be allowed in certain contexts, usually in an exercise-centric environment. But, "Oh man, you look totally hot in that tank top!" Not socially acceptable! Not socially acceptable at all!!!



Much like #1 on this list, the fact that men can't wear makeup isn't something that many men lose sleep over. Frankly, many men have no desire whatsoever to wear makeup, but their position on make-up might change if wearing it it became socially acceptable. Although makeup can often be worn to make one appear more attractive and feminine, it can also be used to de-emphasize features, cover unsightly blemishes and basically smooth over perceived defects in one's general appearance.

It would be nice if we all lived in a perfect world in which everyone felt good about how they looked and was accepted based on their inherent worth as opposed to the degree to which they are aesthetically pleasing, but until that happens allowing men to wear makeup is a logical and infinitely more reasonable step. There are certain instances in which it is 100% socially acceptable for males to wear makeup (face painting for sporting events, for example, or when one works as a model or actor), but in general, this is definitely something that women hold and keep over any men with even the slightest facial defects.

Women Can Make Sweeping Denouncements of Men

If a woman says that "all men are bastards", no one is likely to bat an eye, and they're even less likely to go to bat for the male species. If, on the other hand, a man says "All women are bitches", then social norms dictate that he's being sexist. Frankly, the latter statement is generally considered so inflammatory that those who hear it are often incapable, or at least completely unconcerned with the context in which it was spoken. If a woman says "All men are bastards" because somebody broke her heart, the statement is perfectly reasonable. If a man says "All women are bitches" because a woman broke HIS heart, then he's being unreasonable. Frankly, this kind of momentary negativity may at times be understandable, at least on an individual level, but it leads to larger social problems.

If everyone accepts that one group of people, whether they be codified by gender, race, religion or what have you, is intrinsically worthy of scorn then it fosters an environment of discomfort, if not outright sexism on either side. But that statement is not to say that hyperbole used for personal expression should be verboten, nor does this statement forgive those who do denounce an entire gender out of genuine ignorance or hatred. It merely means that we have to be careful of what we say, and under what context we take others to task for their words.

For various reasons – many of them arguably valid – it is socially acceptable for females to insult the male gender as a whole, while the opposite is most definitely NOT considered socially acceptable. Whether you think this schism is reasonable or otherwise, it is most definitely more forgiving towards women at this point in our cultural, Western, history.

What's The Big Deal About Virginity

From time immemorial a woman's virginity has been her prized possession. Throughout history one will read about cultures across the world placing a high value on a a woman's virginity. But times are changing and for an increasing number of young men and women, sex is no longer the kind of taboo that it earlier used to be. And much to our older generation's charging, pre-marital sex is a definite reality of our times.

In fact, these days, couples who are in a relationship have no qualms about getting sexually intimate with each other even though there may be no guarantee that the relationship will culminate into marriage. However, when it does come to the question of marriage, especially in the case of arranged marriages, a woman with a sexually active history still raises eyebrows and sets tongues wagging. What then is the big deal about virginity and how does this kind of a mentality hamper the lives of numerous women?

According to Dr Mahindra Vatsa, gynaecologist and sex counsellor, this kind of mentality is largely because our traditional values are still strongly embedded in us. "One of the most common questions I get, till date, is 'How do I know that my bride or girlfriend is a virgin?' The only answer that I have to such questions is that there is no way to know," says Dr Watsa. According to him, it's just the man's and his family's inflated ego that results in such unrealistic demands. How then, does our traditional culture not hamper couples from engaging in pre-marital sex? "Once a couple is engaged, it's like a license for marriage so they feel they can do anything," he opines.

"It's actually not such a big deal. However, I still get men who complain to me saying that the wife did not bleed on the first night and hence, they suspect that she's not a virgin. The truth is that the presence of the hymen which ruptures (resulting in the bleeding) is not a sure shot sign of virginity. Some women are born without it, there there are those for whom it is so elastic that it never ruptures while for some it is so fragile that a slightly intense activity may have ruptured it without them even realising it. It is just not possible to access whether a girl is a virgin or not by just examining her except if she's been through a pregnancy or if she admits to having sexual intercourse," says sexologist Dr Rajan Bhonsle.

He goes on to add that in a relationship, if a couple is to make it work successfully, it is more important for the couple to worry about virtues like trust and honesty. "If a woman admits to a sexually active past, it shouldn't be held against her. The very fact that she's even admitting it, even though she could have very well hidden it, means that she is honest and that's all that should matter," he says.

For some men, however, especially those raised in very orthodox families or old-fashioned joint families, it's the family members who tend to influence their decision. "In many of these families, something like falling in love or sex before marriage equates to the girl being bold. Their reasons, hence, for rejecting such girls is that post-marriage, too, the girl will continue with the same behaviour," Dr Bhonsle explains.

Commenting on the issue, actress Sophie Choudry opines, "Most people in Mumbai and other metropolitan cities do not expect their partners to be virgins anymore because India has gone through a dramatic change in the past 10 years. India is no longer the closed society it was. The modern young Indian woman is working, independent and makes her own choices in life. It's a change the Indian man has had to adapt to. Nonetheless, we cannot ignore that there is tremendous pressure on girls from smaller cities and more conservative families and virginity does still play a major factor when it comes to their marriage."

An intact hymen is not a sure sign of virginity.

A woman's hymen can be ruptured by non-sexual activities like intense sports, dancing, sitting astride on two wheelers, etc.

It is not necessary for a virgin to bleed the first time she has sex. In fact, is one goes by the statistics, only 42 per cent of women do so.

With the current advances in medical technology, a plastic surgeon can quite easily reconstruct a layer of tissue to resemble the hymen (the procedure is called Hymenoplasty).

Remember, virginity and chastity are not the only measures to base a happy marriage on, honesty and trust are far more important traits that both partners should possess.


From time immemorial a woman's virginity has been her prized possession. Throughout history one will read about cultures across the world placing a high value on a a woman's virginity. But times are changing and for an increasing number of young men and women, sex is no longer the kind of taboo that it earlier used to be. And much to our older generation's charging, pre-marital sex is a definite reality of our times.

In fact, these days, couples who are in a relationship have no qualms about getting sexually intimate with each other even though there may be no guarantee that the relationship will culminate into marriage. However, when it does come to the question of marriage, especially in the case of arranged marriages, a woman with a sexually active history still raises eyebrows and sets tongues wagging. What then is the big deal about virginity and how does this kind of a mentality hamper the lives of numerous women?

According to Dr Mahindra VatsaWatsa. According to him, it's just the man's and his family's inflated ego that results in such unrealistic demands. How then, does our traditional culture not hamper couples from engaging in pre-marital sex? "Once a couple is engaged, it's like a license for marriage so they feel they can do anything," he opines.

"It's actually not such a big deal. However, I still get men who complain to me saying that the wife did not bleed on the first night and hence, they suspect that she's not a virgin. The truth is that the presence of the hymen which ruptures (resulting in the bleeding) is not a sure shot sign of virginity. Some women are born without it, there there are those for whom it is so elastic that it never ruptures while for some it is so fragile that a slightly intense activity may have ruptured it without them even realising it. It is just not possible to access whether a girl is a virgin or not by just examining her except if she's been through a pregnancy or if she admits to having sexual intercourse," says sexologist Dr Rajan Bhonsle.

He goes on to add that in a relationship, if a couple is to make it work successfully, it is more important for the couple to worry about virtues like trust and honesty. "If a woman admits to a sexually active past, it shouldn't be held against her. The very fact that she's even admitting it, even though she could have very well hidden it, means that she is honest and that's all that should matter," he says.

For some men, however, especially those raised in very orthodox families or old-fashioned joint families, it's the family members who tend to influence their decision. "In many of these families, something like falling in love or sex before marriage equates to the girl being bold. Their reasons, hence, for rejecting such girls is that post-marriage, too, the girl will continue with the same behaviour," Dr Bhonsle explains.

Commenting on the issue, actress Sophie Choudry opines, "Most people in Mumbai and other metropolitan cities do not expect their partners to be virgins anymore because India has gone through a dramatic change in the past 10 years. India is no longer the closed society it was. The modern young Indian woman is working, independent and makes her own choices in life. It's a change the Indian man has had to adapt to. Nonetheless, we cannot ignore that there is tremendous pressure on girls from smaller cities and more conservative families and virginity does still play a major factor when it comes to their marriage."

An intact hymen is not a sure sign of virginity.

A woman's hymen can be ruptured by non-sexual activities like intense sports, dancing, sitting astride on two wheelers, etc.

It is not necessary for a virgin to bleed the first time she has sex. In fact, is one goes by the statistics, only 42 per cent of women do so.

With the current advances in medical technology, a plastic surgeon can quite easily reconstruct a layer of tissue to resemble the hymen (the procedure is called Hymenoplasty).

Remember, virginity and chastity are not the only measures to base a happy marriage on, honesty and trust are far more important traits that both partners should possess.

Making An Impression On The Girl You Like

It is okay to be nervous on the first date. Most people are. And the need to make an impression on the girl you like, is strong. Here are a few simple tips that will help you...

Look your very best on the first date. Begin by carefully selecting what you are going to wear. Keep in mind what kind of place you are going to and dress accordingly. Don't wear a sports watch if you are wearing a formal jacket.

You must take a shower before you get ready, even if you have had one in the morning. Smelling nice is one of the most important parts of the evening. Use a nice subtle perfume. But don't overdo it — you don't want your date to asphyxiate!

Set your hair. If possible, get a hair cut or a trim a day or two before, for a fresh and neat look.

If you sport a beard make sure it is well groomed. If you like wearing a clean shaven look, shave before you go off for your date.

Whistling At Work Makes You More Efficient

Whistling while you work could help you do your job better, suggests a new study.

According to a leading psychologist, whistling or singing helps distract the mind from trying too hard and prevents mental overload.

The suggestion is based on a study into the phenomenon of 'choking' - the moment when a footballer misses a critical penalty or a top student flunks a vital exam.

Dr Sian Beilock of the University of Chicago argues far from being down to ''just nerves'', choking occurs when the brain finds itself with too many pieces of information to process, resulting in ''paralysis by analysis''.

The same holds true when presenting a vital sales pitch, making an important putt or doing an audition.

"Choking is sub-optimal performance, not just poor performance," the Daily Mail quoted Beilock, who used brain scans to study what is going on the mind during high pressure situations in the lab, as saying.

"It's a performance that is inferior to what you can do and have done in the past and occurs when you feel pressure to get everything right."

Some of the most memorable moments of choking occur in sports when the whole world is watching, she said.

Even singing helps stop parts of the brain that might interfere with performance from taking over, she said.

She has dubbed the phenomenon paralysis by analysis - when people try to control every aspect of what they are doing in a bid to ensure success.

The researchers found that the brain can also sabotage performance because too much pressure is put on ''working memory'' - part of the prefrontal cortex, which focuses explicitly on the task in hand.

Although the most talented people usually have the most working memory, anxieties and worries overload it, meaning the brain is no longer able to perform.

The research features in a new book Choke: What Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have To.

Heighten a woman's sex drive

Men have traditionally been touted as the 'hungry for sex' species. With a comparatively higher sex drive than their female partner, men are often expected to assume charge while performing in bed and are held responsible for a gratifying act too.

But why are men having all the fun? Women too can act bold when it comes to showing off their sex drive. But how?

Dr. Deepak Arora, a sexologist elucidates, "Men love their wives to have sex and wives have sex to get love from their men, in this way they become a supplement for each other. So if the female partner starts taking an equal interest in the act of intimacy; it can bring them closer to each other and they can enjoy a healthy sexual relationship."

Relationship and sex counselor Dr. Geetu Bhardwaj supports, "Gone are the days when a 'high sex drive' was considered a male prerogative. With various sexual techniques and arousal methods, even women can enhance their sex appeal and thus give their sex drive a much needed boost. Once women empower themselves to take charge in bed, they can overtake men not only in their sex drive, but also in sexual performance."

Breaking away from the preset notion of 'men are sexually more active', we get experts to share ways as to how a woman can overtake her man in sex drive...

Take charge of for*play : Men, in general, are not overtly interested in prolonged for*play. So it comes as an added advantage for women to give a push to their sex drive and initiate the primary for*play. Sex therapist Dr. Devesh Roy advices, "Women must keep in mind that the arousing acts should be intense so that the man feels that you are fully charged up for a steamy session in bed. Do not focus much on unnecessary things like cooking a meal etc that may mar the mood before it actually gets going."

Plan for a sensuous night : You'd have often seen in Bollywood flicks that the hero is decorating the room for a night of passion and is going all out to woo his lady love with surprise gifts. But why do men make way for these sexual fantasies? It's time for women to let their wild imagination spread its magic. Relationship and sex counselor Dr. Geetu Bhardwaj opines, "Keeping their sexual desires on a high, women can plan for opulent bedroom settings whereby they can have everything that hints towards their sexual desire. Right from dim lights and aroma oils to fragrant rose petals and orchids strands; create an atmosphere that is conducive for a lovemaking night."

Dress attractively : Quite often, women feel low on sex drive because they feel less sexy and attractive from inside. Hence, they wait for men to pamper them and make them feel wanted. Dr. Amita Mishra, a relationship expert however states, "Looking attractive in sexy attires like a bikini or see-through lingerie ignites the female sexual desire to get intimate with their partner and vice-versa. Even if your man is not interested in sex on a particular night, there are chances that your dressing provocatively will arouse them for a sexual session."

Exchange naughty gestures : While men always boast of their sex drive through gestures like tickling, caressing, kissing, whispering and at times publicly displaying their affection, women too should try shedding their inhibitions and acting a bit naughty. While having dinner, women can try holding their mate's hands or giving them a surprise hug when he's shirtless right after a shower. "These sexual gestures act as clear indications that a woman is much more aroused as compared to the man. This high sex drive gets translated into a wonderful chemistry in the bedroom while having sex," feels Dr. Roy.

Make kissing a memorable experience : Passionate kissing works wonders in your sexual paradise, but again don't let your man make the first move. Make him feel that you know much more than him when it comes to kissing. Try different kinds of kisses and drive him crazy. "Kissing is a quintessential part of for*play, the actual act and after-sex moments. Women can use kissing as a weapon to stimulate their partners and at the same time also experiment with newer ways of kissing to leave their partner utterly surprised," suggests Dr. Geetu.

Don't insist too much on contraception : A short cut to let your man know that you're equally, or more, ravenous for sex is to let the things happen without much of interruption. While performing in bed, women must not insist too much on using protection and just try to enjoy the act. "Continuous reminders about using contraception make a man feel that the woman is not keen on sex and is rather overtly worried about the aftermath. So it's suggested that the pleasurable moments should be performed sans any hindrance to show a woman's craving for sex," says Dr. Amita.

Look Radiant With These Simple Tips

Are you constantly looking tired? We tell you how to look radiant and perky even after missing on your beauty sleep

Almost all of us are victims to a lack of sleep. In fact, there is nothing worse than starting your day looking tired and sleep-deprived. Pale sallow skin, dry and dull complexion, puffy and dark under-eye circles, can reveal your level of fatigue. We tell you how to get your face looking bright and beautiful.

Aqua effect :
The best way to get your skin looking fresh as a daisy is by splashing cold water on your face. The cold temperature helps by constricting blood vessels and making your skin look smoother. Splash some water first thing you wake-up to feel fresh and alive.

Bye bye dryness :
While you are sleeping, your skin tends to get dehydrated. Using a good moisturizer can help plump up the skin cells. All the signs of dry skin, such as lines which make you look older will reduce with the use of a moisturizing cream.

Kitchen remedies:
If you are still looking pale and sallow, try using a combination of milk and ice cubes. Dip a napkin in the mixture and then place on your face for a few minutes. This will help to instantly brighten your skin, the Cleopatra way.

Reduce puffiness:
While most of us opt for eye creams in the night before sleeping, using one in the morning can help. Choose one which contains peptides and caffeine. Keep your cream in the fridge the night before and use it in the morning. The gel-based formula (opt for a water-based one) can help get rid of the puffy look.

Go slow on make-up:
If you haven't slept much the night before, it's best to go easy on the make-up. While you do want to cover up the tell-tale signs of sleepiness, you don't want to look like a caked-up monster. Go slow on heavy foundation or powder. Try a tinted moisturiser with SPF protection instead and use a light coat of concealer.

Eye openers:
They say the eyes are our windows to the world. No greater reason to ensure that they look their brightest best. Use an eyelash curler to open up your eyes and then apply a light coat of mascara. It will do wonders for your overall look.

Add some colour:
Get rid of the sallowness from your face by using some pink or peach colored cream blush. This will instantly transform your complexion and take away the attention from your under-eye. Creamy formulas work better than powder blushes as they blend well and can add just a pinch of natural - looking color.

Mane magic:
While you may not have time to wash your hair everyday, adding some leave-in conditioner or serum can tame your mane in no time. If you have some minutes to spare, try blow drying the top layer, otherwise just lightly wet your locks and apply product and scrunch.

Night care:
How well you take care of your skin the previous night can make a difference as well. Ensure that you use a good cleanser to remove all the make-up, dirt and grime stuck to your face.

Diet worthy:
Cutting back on salt and alcohol can do wonders for your skin. Alcohol dehydrates the body and causes those bags around your eyes. Drink plenty of water to clean out your system.

Pillow talk:
Use a satin pillow as it smooths dry, frizzy hair and doesn't cause friction with the skin when sleeping.